Obituary for Stanley Haven

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Stanley Haven

Died: January 15, 2020

Stanley Campbell Haven passed away peacefully on Wednesday, January 15, 2020, after a valiant battle with dementia.  He was surrounded by his loving wife, Pam Haven, son, Mark Dayhoff, sister, Lynette Sipe, brother, Bob Haven and sister-in-law, Stephanie Haven.

Stan was preceded in death by his father, Robert Haven, his mother, Gwendoline Haven, his 2nd wife, Donna Dayhoff Haven, and his stepson, Matt Ehmke.  He is survived by his precious wife, Pam Haven, his sister, Lynette Sipe, his brother-in-law, Sherman Sipe, his brother, Bob Haven, his sister-in-law, Stephanie Haven, his son, Lance Faille, his son, Mark Dayhoff, his daughter-in-law, Michelle Dayhoff, his son, Campbell Haven, his daughter-in-law, Monique Ehmke and her two sons, his grandson, Tanner Dayhoff and family, his granddaughter, Emilee Cronin and family, his granddaughter, Jenna Ehmke and family, his granddaughter, Jenna Klamm and family, and nine great grandchildren.

In lieu of flowers, the family asks that you make donations to the Lafayette VFW, the Alzheimer’s Association, or the Longmont Humane Society in memory of Stan Haven.  The memorial will be held on Friday, February 7, 2020 from 2:00PM – 4:00PM at Gate ‘N Green Clubhouse at 13405 Main St. Broomfield, Colorado 80020.  The family would like to thank Bonaventure Senior Living, North Suburban Hospital, Balfour Skilled Nursing, FirstLight Home Health Care, All About Seniors, Trail Winds Hospice, Dr. Otteman’s office, Boulder Medical Center, Foothills Hospital and all the staff members who took such great care of Stan over the past three and half months.

In Stan’s words:

I was born April 4, 1941 in Auckland, New Zealand.  My mother was Gwendoline Fox.  On July 20, 1943, she married Robert Haven.  He adopted me.  My sister, Lynette, was born in 1944.  My brother, Bob, was born in 1947 in Santa Rosa, California.  In February 1946, my mother, sister, and I boarded the SS Mariposa, which had been chartered by the US government to bring war brides and dependents to the United States.  We arrived in San Francisco on March 5, 1946.

Dad had purchased a lot in Santa Rosa and proceeded to build a home on it, by himself.  We lived there until September 1949.  My mother was extremely homesick for New Zealand, so we sold the house in order to return to NZ.  However, there was a shipping strike on the West Coast, which created a considerable wait time for passage.  During the wait, we visited Dad’s family in South Dakota.  While there, the local blacksmith shop became available for purchase.  Dad talked Mom into trying it for a year or two.  We stayed in Brentford, SD until October 1955.

I won the Spink County Spelling Bee in the 8th grade, with a trip to Minneapolis as the prize.  The good people of Brentford and nearby farms contributed over $500 to me.  I was able to use those gifts to pay for Mom’s train fare and our expenses.  I also received the American Legion Good Citizen Award that year.

In October 1955, Dad and Mom decided to move to Denver, CO for better work opportunities.  In 1959, I graduated from Lafayette High School, Lafayette, CO.  Two weeks later, with six fellow graduates, I joined the US Navy.  I served 5 years in the Navy and was discharged in March 1964.  In June of 1964, I was hired by Public Service Company of Colorado.  I worked for PSCO for 35 years.  The last nineteen years as the Mechanical Maintenance Supervisor at the Valmont Power Plant in Boulder, Colorado.

On October 10, 1964, I married Kathleen Hensley.  We had one son, Lance, born February 19, 1966.  We divorced in 1970.

On February 23, 1972, I married Donna Dayhoff, we had one son, Campbell, born June 25, 1973.  In addition, I gained a wonderful stepson, Mark Dayhoff.  Donna passed away from cancer in April 1983.

I married Pam Kubitschek (Smith) on January 8, 1994 in Auckland, New Zealand.  And gained another wonderful stepson, Matt Ehmke.

In September 1973, I ran for and was elected to the Lafayette, Colorado City Council.  In May of 1975, I applied for and was appointed by City Council to be the Lafayette Municipal Judge.  I held that position until September 1980.  On February 28, 1999, I retired from Public Service Company.

None of the above would have happened, if not for the following:

If my mother hadn’t married Bob Haven in 1943.  She passed away from cancer December 15, 1980.

If Bob Haven hadn’t adopted me and treated me as his own.

If Bob Haven hadn’t been there in 1943 or 1944, when I was throwing paper into the open fireplace, tripped over the hearth, fell face first into the fire, and he pulled me out of the fire and saved me from any lasting injuries.  I don’t know the actual date because when I asked Dad when it happened, he shrugged it off as “It was no big deal.”  Dad passed away January 30, 2002.

If I hadn’t been raised in an atmosphere of “You can accomplish anything if you work hard enough.”

If I hadn’t grown up in school systems where you were encouraged to succeed: thank you Brentford Consolidated Schools and Lafayette High School.

If I hadn’t become a naturalized United States Citizen in 1960 with all of the benefits and privileges that entails.


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